Just show up

I’ve been in a reflective state for the past week because I knew that I would hit this major milestone and I didn’t know how I would feel. In fact, I was anxious about today because there is a sense of fear of the future and the unknown. What is this major milestone you may ask?  

I am officially a professional certified life coach.

I’ve invested in myself for the past 6 months to get to this moment. I will tell you that this certification isn’t for the faint of heart. The hardest part of becoming a life coach is going within yourself and coaching yourself around all of your own limiting beliefs.

What is a limiting belief?

Limiting beliefs are those which constrain us in some way. Just by believing them, we do not think, do or say the things that they inhibit. And in doing so we impoverish our lives.We may have beliefs about rights, duties, abilities, permissions and so on. Limiting beliefs are often about our selves and our self-identity. The beliefs may also be about other people and the world in general.In any case, they sadly limit us.1

Do you have limiting beliefs? 

ME TOOOOO!!!! I didn’t realize the amount of limiting beliefs I had until I had to face them head on and let me tell you – it wasn’t easy or pretty to do. There was a lot of crying involved. Furthermore, I had to share my limiting beliefs with my classmates. WHAT!?! Not a fun or comfortable experience BUT beginning to change the narrative around my limiting beliefs allowed me to begin an inner transformation.

Here are some of my limiting beliefs:

Limiting BeliefReframing the belief
I am not qualified to be a coach. Once you are certified you will be qualified.Your experiences qualify you to be a coach.
No one will want to hire me as a coach.Your unique experiences will draw the right client to you. 
Who will listen to me? What authority do I have?Your experiences and views give you a testimony that is unique and people will want to hear about it.  
How can I do this? It’s impossible. Just take it one step at a time. You will find your way. 

I have learned that each stage of my life has prepared me for this exact moment. I have been asked numerous times how I do everything for this blog, life coaching, and generally just life. I do explain how I “do it all” in my Doing It All post. Spoiler alert if you haven’t read that post already – I don’t do it all. 

  • As a mom, I have learned how to explain things in a way that is simple to understand. I have also learned how to be compassionate and have empathy for others.
  • As a retail worker, I have learned how to give great customer service to my clients and ensure that they are happy and satisfied with our coaching relationship. It has also helped me learn how to deal with negative people and give grace even if they are hurtful.
  • As a phlebotomist, I have learned how to calmly hold space for a client as they become emotional and guide them to a more willing state of mind.
  • As a Christ follower, I have learned how to be brave and pray for clients at the end of sessions. I was never brave enough to do this but I understand the power of prayer and now I am praying over clients.

Each experience has taught me so much about how to interact with those around me and all of those experience has prepared me for the newest chapter as a life coach.

Show up

The biggest lesson I have learned is to just show up.

  • Show up mentally to class even if you feel that its not beneficial. You don’t know how it will assist you later on in life. It will help you, believe me.
  • Show up physically when you have an opportunity to network with other like minded individuals even if you feel under qualified. You never know how that one interaction will catapult you to an even bigger opportunity.
  • Show up emotionally for clients when they pour their hearts out to you. Creating a safe space for anyone to be vulnerable isn’t easy. Showing compassion and empathy is important.
  • Show up as yourself. People know when you are being inauthentic. Trust that you are enough just as you are and that people are 100% interested in what you have to say.
  • Show up and be seen. Allow yourself to be seen for the amazing person that you are even if you don’t believe it. Your unique experiences give you great authority of how your life has been shaped. People want to see that. So let them.

Beginning anything new is overwhelming and your limiting beliefs will shout at you internally because it is new. That’s ok! Your brain is programmed to keep you safe, so anything new will cause a feeling of ‘danger’ and fear. All you have to do is take a step forward and keep doing that until you reach the next thing. I know it sounds simple and its extremely harder to do but also know you are absolutely capable to do it right now.

But, how?

How you may ask? By just showing up.

If you need help working through your limiting beliefs to get to the next milestone-chapter-goal-aspiration in your life. I’m here to help you work through them. If I can create space for myself to do something new. So can you.

I believe in you. So let’s talk about it.

Schedule a FREE 30 minute coaching session with me and let’s work through those limiting beliefs together. You’ll be surprised what just one session will do for you.

Don’t believe me? My one session with my own coach (YES coaches have coaches too) capitulated me forward and transformed how I viewed myself and my abilities. That is why I am here today. To serve you just as she served me.

Waiting…for you! Let’s do it!

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TFM Spotify playlist

I’ve been asked a few times what worship music I would recommend. So I decided to create a Spotify playlist. It is a compilation of some of my favorite praise and worship songs from over the years. I will add songs to it as I continue to praise God for all he’s done in my life.

TFM: Praise & Worship Playlist

Music for the soul

On days when I feel down, one of the things I do to remind myself of God’s promises is turn on Christian pop. If you were to drive up next to me at a stoplight or in school drive thru, you will most likely find me with my music blasting all the way up with my hands up praising. Don’t worry! I would never drive without having my hands on the steering wheel.

Worship music equalizes my thoughts and emotions especially during this uncertain season of sheltering in place. God has provided so much for me and my family that it isn’t hard for me to be grateful for his love, compassion, and daily mercies.

If you are in need of encouragement, I highly encourage my praise and worship playlist. If you have any suggestions to add to the list, please let me know!


Pantry staples: mommy magic & the essentials

Feeding a family of seven has its challenges. My biggest obstacle is having the ability to feed our entire family, day in and day out. Its not easy but with some helpful staples, I have been able to keep this family, generally, well fed for the past 18 years.

I cook seven days a week. This was the easiest way to stretch my husband’s paycheck as far as it can go. To feed a family of seven homemade meals, is significantly cheaper than eating out or getting take out. Don’t get me wrong, we eat out a decent amount of times a month but its not nearly as much as normal size families.

The essentials

It took me a few years to solidify the staples for our kitchen. What I learned over the years was that I actually needed to create two types: Asian and American. Since I cook all the time, I wanted to create meals that were diverse and highlighted our Filipino heritage as well as American upbringing.

I can proudly say that I cook cuisine from all around the world! This has allowed our kids to experience different cultures from the comfort of our own home. It has also helped them broaden their palate which I am very proud of.

Asian pantry staples

I know this list may not be 100% complete by other Asian kitchens standards, but this is what I absolute must haves in order to create dishes from our heritage and neighboring Asian countries.

Pantry Items

  • dried noodles
    • vermicelli noodles
    • bihon noodles
    • sweet potato noodles
  • chicken bouillon
  • halo halo mix
  • evaporated milk
  • condensed milk
  • canola oil
  • sesame oil
  • Spam
  • Vienna sausage
  • sinigang mix (tamarind)
  • achuete
  • fish sauce
  • soy sauce
  • Maggi seasoning
  • Asian vinegar
  • tempura batter mix
  • panko crumbs
  • whole white peppercorns
  • ground white peppercorns
  • black peppercorns
  • onions
  • garlic
  • potatoes
  • cornstarch
  • furikake

Fridge

  • oyster sauce
  • banana ketchup
  • hoisin sauce
  • garlic chili sauce
  • hot mustard
  • bok choy
  • yakisoba noodles

Freezer

  • homemade lumpia
    • shanghai
    • vegetable
  • longonisa
  • tocino
  • any meats on sale

American pantry staples

Pantry

  • sea salt coarse
  • ionized salt
  • ground black pepper
  • seasoning salt
  • garlic powder
  • onion powder
  • honey
  • cumin
  • chili powder
  • oregano
  • balsamic vinegar
  • red wine vinegar
  • extra virgin olive oil
  • all purpose flour
  • white sugar
  • brown sugar
  • powdered sugar
  • homemade vanilla extract
  • corn syrup
  • ground cinnamon

Fridge

  • ketchup
  • yellow mustard
  • dijon mustard
  • ranch dressing
  • bbq sauce
  • active yeast

Freezer

  • homemade bread crumbs
  • frozen bananas
  • any meat on sale

Mommy Magic

My parents were hardworking middle class American citizens. They always made sure we had what we needed and most of the time, things that we wanted. Food was never something I ever had to worry about because my parents were both great home cooks.

My mom was the queen of making do with what we had. There were many, many meals growing up that she made out of items in the fridge and pantry. If you were to ask her what she made, she would say I have no idea but it tastes good. She called it “Mommy Magic.”

The mother recipe

Through my experience of I’ve realized that Filipino food dishes have a base recipe. Similar to how the cajun cooking has the holy trinity. It usually consists of aromatics, a protein, and vegetables. The aromatics usually consisted of onions and garlic, sometimes a tomato and ginger. It is usually flavored with fish sauce/patis and chicken bouillon. This mother recipe has helped me create many, many meals for our family.

The recipe below is something that my mom made often. I actually have no idea if it a traditional Filipino dish. Nonetheless, it is a my nuclear family favorite as well as my own family. This dish is probably in our dinner rotation at least once a month. It’s an easy, inexpensive, quick meal. You can absolutely swap out the protein and veggies for what you have on hand. It will be absolutely delicious.

Upo with shrimp and ground pork

1 lbs. ground pork
1/2 lb. shrimp
2 medium size opo, peeled with seeds removed and diced
1 medium onion, diced
2 cloves – garlic, minced
1 tomato, diced
1 tablespoon – canola oil
2 tablespoons – fish sauce/patis
1 tablespoon – chicken bouillon
1 cup – water
salt and pepper to taste

1. Saute ground pork until cooked through. Season with salt and pepper
2. Saute onions and garlic for 2-3 minutes. Add tomato and saute for 3 minutes.
3. Deglaze the pan with fish sauce, water, and chicken bouillon.
4. Bring pan up to a boil. Lower to a simmer and simmer for 5 minutes.
5. Add diced opo and simmer for 5-7 minutes or until tender.
6. Add shrimp and simmer until cooked through.
7. Add adjust seasoning with salt, pepper, and patis.
8. Serve over white jasmine rice.

Always cooking

If you were to text or call me, you know I am always cooking. Its just how it is with a large family. I hope this post inspires you to cook more meals at home or even venture into another cuisine. Keep pressing forward!

Stay healthy.

Remember – it’s ok to NOT be ok.